This
is 30
What creates ones
perception of them self? If anything
“You” are a collected gathering of old memories and captured feelings from past
events, coupled with the idea of future goals/ambitions. Every Happy emotion is
linked to a positive: Person | Place | Thing in our past, and every negative
emotion linked to a bad experience! This fragile combination leads to how we
act in present situations, and directly to our mood! 
All this combines and
writes the script of who you currently are. And often times breaking that script can seem
scary, and pointless. We would rather embrace the character created through
life experience and not make modifications/improvements upon it.
The First 10 Years of
your life (0-10) are spent figuring out that you are a real live person and
learning how you work, move, play, and think. The Second 10 Years (10-20) are
spent finding your Personality, Goals, and fighting off awkward moments. The
Third 10 Years (20-30) are spent acting on previous goals, PARTYING, dating,
trying to prove yourself in the work force, and if you are lucky: falling in
Love, getting Married, buying a Home, having Children.
Which brings us to 30:
At this point, one has been out of college and working longer than they were in
it. We have had our license for 13 years, and have been going to Bars | Clubs |
Lounges for almost 10 years. Which leads to the question Where the Fuck did it all go?
I for one, can admit
that 30 crept up on me in the sneakiest of ways. A compilation of days, months,
weeks, and years that added to me looking in the mirror and saying:
“Holy Cow…. When did I
become an Adult?”
The Answer: NEVER
The Answer: NEVER
I feel like a lost boy
in never-never land refusing to grow up. I fight daily with dating myself on late
80’s & 90’s Music | TV | Movie references that no one gets.
I spend time thinking
back and celebrating existing memories and less frequently go out and make new
ones. My laundry list of preconceived notions on: Events | Places | People
constantly dissuade me from going out and making new adventures. Yet when an
event takes a turn and goes “off the plan” I end up having the time of my life.
Which has lead me to making a plan to HAVE NO PLAN! Having low expectations has
continued leading to very rewarding experiences!
I look to my Brothers
(20 & 17) and see them entering the phase of life I believe to still live
in! It is amazing the pressure on a young man to succeed, looking good amongst
friends, and not let failures trip them up! With the monsoon of envy I have for
them, I still have flickering moments when I glance onto my life and think:
“Wow, I have it all
together!” and for that moment I Love Myself.
Up to 30:
Born and raised in
Hightstown, NJ, by two amazing loving parents who spoiled me with attention,
knowledge, and life experience.
I learned how to Work |
Communicate | Repair Cars at a VERY early Age working next to my Father.
I was cultured in Music
| Movies | Social Awareness from my Mother.
Honed in on Leadership |
Laughter | Fun with my Brothers.
Acquired the ability to
Celebrate | Dance | Play alongside GREAT Friends.
And still practicing
how to effectively LOVE | LIVE beside my Wife.
I graduated from Two
High Schools, Played Division 1 College Football, and have a Bachelor of
Science. I have owned and Run a Lawn Mowing Company, Automotive Detailing Company,
and Now a Full Functioning Athletic Performance Facility!
At 30:
I
am the owner of a succeeding business in a “recession” doing what I LOVE.
I am married to the
best woman I have ever met (Next to my Mother)
I am going to become a
Father in 2 Months (Hopefully ½ as good as my Dad)
Have
a Family I LOVE being a Part of!
live in a place I LOVE
going home to.
and have Cars I LOVE
to Drive.
SO
I SAY BRING ON THE 30’s
